Blaming Yourself for Pulling Your Hair Out

A lot of trichsters blame themselves for pulling their hair. However, I don’t believe any of us should. It’s no worse than anything that others do – and we do not have to feel guilty for not being able to stop!

Why Blame Yourself for Pulling Your Hair Out?

I completely understand if you blame yourself for pulling your hair out. After all, we all have control over our lives, we should be able to stop doing the things that are bad for us. But this isn’t just like trying to exercise more, this is battling against the wiring in our brain.

Yes, to a degree, we do have control. But think about it this way. Trichotillomania is possibly something that helps us deal with our lives. It can help us deal with situations a little easier, it can help us to empathise with others, it makes us understand a little more about how nobody is really ‘normal’. And why feel guilty for that?

When you pull your hair it is only about you. You might do damage to the way it looks, but the real people who should feel guilty are those who make you feel bad for doing it.

There Is No ‘Normal’

There is no perfect standard of a human being. Whether you overeat, pull your hair, think negatively, push people away, have a nervous tic… whatever it is – it is just part of being human.

Yes, we have a degree of control, Yes, it is possible to stop sometimes. But accepting trichotillomania is going to get you a lot further than blaming yourself for pulling your hair out.

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