Comments on: Do You Ever Think It Could Be Easy to Stop Pulling Out Hair? http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html Personal stories from those with experience of trichotillomania - pulling out hair. Thu, 17 May 2012 01:45:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Angie http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-17257 Angie Tue, 15 Mar 2011 04:06:39 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-17257 Hi Tom! And hi to everyone lovely, wonderful, amazing, and beautiful person on this blog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I haven't written here in a while, and haven't heard from Tom, but I'd love to hear from anyone that would like to talk, it truly helps! I'm doing perfectly! I'm trying my bet not to pull out, and my fear of having my eyelashes growing out looking not like my own or badly is gone! I have the slight fear still there, but it's just a fear of a fear now- the real fear is gone! I'm growing my eyelashes out for the second time since last year in the summer- they were perfect, and they're growing out just like they did last year in the summer again! I'm ready, and I know I can do this! One thing that I've found that I want to share is this- once you start- even just one lash that you "think" looks bad, you start pulling the rest out. One thing that's hard is the patience, but I give you my blessings and prayers for it to work, for you all to be able to get rid of this habit. And that's all it is, just a habit, and it's not a bad thing. It's something that we all will get rid of! Please, feel free to reply, and I'd love to talk to anyone who would like to stop with me! Lots of love, -Angie;) Hi Tom! And hi to everyone lovely, wonderful, amazing, and beautiful person on this blog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I haven’t written here in a while, and haven’t heard from Tom, but I’d love to hear from anyone that would like to talk, it truly helps!
I’m doing perfectly! I’m trying my bet not to pull out, and my fear of having my eyelashes growing out looking not like my own or badly is gone! I have the slight fear still there, but it’s just a fear of a fear now- the real fear is gone!

I’m growing my eyelashes out for the second time since last year in the summer- they were perfect, and they’re growing out just like they did last year in the summer again!

I’m ready, and I know I can do this! One thing that I’ve found that I want to share is this- once you start- even just one lash that you “think” looks bad, you start pulling the rest out. One thing that’s hard is the patience, but I give you my blessings and prayers for it to work, for you all to be able to get rid of this habit. And that’s all it is, just a habit, and it’s not a bad thing. It’s something that we all will get rid of! Please, feel free to reply, and I’d love to talk to anyone who would like to stop with me!

Lots of love,
-Angie;)

]]> By: Angie http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-15903 Angie Sun, 23 Jan 2011 08:28:27 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-15903 Hello sweet heart! First of all, happy New Year to you and all of you wonderful people here! I'm sorry I haven't checked up on you in a while! It seems I never got the email reply- I must have messed something up! I'm so happy you're doing good! I hope that you are doing amazing now as well, how is it going?! I tried very hard to stay on track, but eventually pulled everything out. Not an urge any longer, I assure you. It's that nasty fear- though in my mind I know it's not true! I'm hoping to get over it! I know I can get my eyelashes just like they were in the summer of 2010!! I'm starting fresh again now! The second I have the fear, I'm going to think of our pledge! For me, I'm also narrowing down my thoughts to the summer- I really need 2 months to grow everything back- just get rid of the fear! How is you're New Years going? I hope you're doing great! I promise to keep checking up every two weeks! I'm sorry I haven't recently! I hope we can start from now on! It's the same for me now, eyebrows are a different matter! You definitely have me as you have graciously given yourself! Lots of love and all my love and prayers! -Angie;) Hello sweet heart!
First of all, happy New Year to you and all of you wonderful people here!
I’m sorry I haven’t checked up on you in a while! It seems I never got the email reply- I must have messed something up!
I’m so happy you’re doing good! I hope that you are doing amazing now as well, how is it going?!

I tried very hard to stay on track, but eventually pulled everything out. Not an urge any longer, I assure you. It’s that nasty fear- though in my mind I know it’s not true! I’m hoping to get over it! I know I can get my eyelashes just like they were in the summer of 2010!! I’m starting fresh again now! The second I have the fear, I’m going to think of our pledge!
For me, I’m also narrowing down my thoughts to the summer- I really need 2 months to grow everything back- just get rid of the fear!

How is you’re New Years going? I hope you’re doing great! I promise to keep checking up every two weeks! I’m sorry I haven’t recently! I hope we can start from now on!
It’s the same for me now, eyebrows are a different matter!

You definitely have me as you have graciously given yourself! Lots of love and all my love and prayers!
-Angie;)

]]> By: Tom http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-14630 Tom Sun, 02 Jan 2011 00:23:11 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-14630 Of course, Angie! A New Year and a new pledge. Remember, you are in my thoughts daily. Every time I begin to probe -- usually while thinking or reading or watching a movie -- I consider our pledge. And it really has helped. A day at a time we will reprogram our impulses. Initially we can work on blocks of two-week intervals, charting one another's progress. By May, we will be brand new. I run the Vermont City Marathon in May, and that is the the date by which I plan to have gotten this untamed animal broken once and for all. And remember, it is a process that may take not weeks but months or years. I have been consciously working on mitigating my impulsion for several years, and slowly but surely, there is improvement. Only very rarely do I now have to worry about my eyelashes (interestingly, I have never attacked the bottom. My weak spot is for the outer corners on top -- usually int he dead of night). Eyebrows are another matter but I am working on it; am almost there. You have me. I have you. Yours, Tom Of course, Angie!

A New Year and a new pledge. Remember, you are in my thoughts daily. Every time I begin to probe — usually while thinking or reading or watching a movie — I consider our pledge. And it really has helped. A day at a time we will reprogram our impulses. Initially we can work on blocks of two-week intervals, charting one another’s progress. By May, we will be brand new. I run the Vermont City Marathon in May, and that is the the date by which I plan to have gotten this untamed animal broken once and for all. And remember, it is a process that may take not weeks but months or years. I have been consciously working on mitigating my impulsion for several years, and slowly but surely, there is improvement. Only very rarely do I now have to worry about my eyelashes (interestingly, I have never attacked the bottom. My weak spot is for the outer corners on top — usually int he dead of night). Eyebrows are another matter but I am working on it; am almost there. You have me. I have you.

Yours,

Tom

]]> By: Angie http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-14413 Angie Thu, 30 Dec 2010 01:45:29 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-14413 Hello Tom!!!! I'm SO happy your pledge was a success!!!! You don't know how excited I am!! I hope you're not disappointed in me, I didn't do so good! I'm so sorry Tom, I hope you don't mind if I renew my pledge and start a second time! I was doing great until the last week! They looked GORGEOUS! Just like you said, just like they were in the summer of this year! I want to try again! I felt so upset after I pulled them out- I started from the bottom that was almost completely grown back, and then the top, which was coming in AMAZING! After, my fear came back like crazy, and it kept nagging my mind that they'd now only grow back badly. But then, I thought of you, and I had this feeling, like this was it, this time, they'd grow back just like you said, just like in the summer of this year! I'm ready to do it again! We can do it together! I hope you'll let me try again with you! I'm so proud of you my sweetheart!!!! I knew you're doing amazing!!!! Lots of love!! -Angie Hello Tom!!!!
I’m SO happy your pledge was a success!!!! You don’t know how excited I am!!

I hope you’re not disappointed in me, I didn’t do so good! I’m so sorry Tom, I hope you don’t mind if I renew my pledge and start a second time! I was doing great until the last week! They looked GORGEOUS! Just like you said, just like they were in the summer of this year! I want to try again! I felt so upset after I pulled them out- I started from the bottom that was almost completely grown back, and then the top, which was coming in AMAZING! After, my fear came back like crazy, and it kept nagging my mind that they’d now only grow back badly. But then, I thought of you, and I had this feeling, like this was it, this time, they’d grow back just like you said, just like in the summer of this year! I’m ready to do it again! We can do it together! I hope you’ll let me try again with you!

I’m so proud of you my sweetheart!!!! I knew you’re doing amazing!!!!
Lots of love!!
-Angie

]]> By: Tom http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-14229 Tom Mon, 27 Dec 2010 23:49:38 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-14229 Hi, Angie, My two-week pledge was a success (97.999%) and I hope yours was as well. I would like to try it again -- another two weeks -- and this time (for myself) throw eyebrows into the mix. I was a saint in the eyelash dept. but found myself teasing my eyebrows while thinking, deliberating, etc. No real damage -- just a slight mar in the left one. So, two more weeks? Let me know and we can report back on 10 January. Yours, Tom Hi, Angie,

My two-week pledge was a success (97.999%) and I hope yours was as well. I would like to try it again — another two weeks — and this time (for myself) throw eyebrows into the mix. I was a saint in the eyelash dept. but found myself teasing my eyebrows while thinking, deliberating, etc. No real damage — just a slight mar in the left one. So, two more weeks? Let me know and we can report back on 10 January.

Yours,

Tom

]]> By: Angie http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-13333 Angie Tue, 14 Dec 2010 06:06:34 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-13333 Hello sweetheart! I pledge that I will, along with you, not pull out a single eyelash for 2 weeks! I'll report back on the 27th of December, and then we'll keep going! We will both have lashes thick and lustrous by Spring! No mascara needed, baby! ;) I begin my pledge.... NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love, -Angie Hello sweetheart!
I pledge that I will, along with you, not pull out a single eyelash for 2 weeks! I’ll report back on the 27th of December, and then we’ll keep going! We will both have lashes thick and lustrous by Spring! No mascara needed, baby! ;)
I begin my pledge…. NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love,
-Angie

]]> By: Tom http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-13325 Tom Tue, 14 Dec 2010 04:33:01 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-13325 Dear Angie, Let's make a deal. We agree, now, on the spot, to refrain from pulling -- for two solid weeks -- not a single eyelash. On the 27th of December, we will report back, right here. I will say, 'yes, I have not pulled a single eyelash in two weeks.' You will say the same. Together, we will be bold, and if successful, we will try an additional two weeks, and so on. By Spring, your lashes will be thick and lustrous; you won't even need mascara. I begin my pledge...NOW. Yours, Tom Dear Angie,

Let’s make a deal. We agree, now, on the spot, to refrain from pulling — for two solid weeks — not a single eyelash. On the 27th of December, we will report back, right here. I will say, ‘yes, I have not pulled a single eyelash in two weeks.’ You will say the same. Together, we will be bold, and if successful, we will try an additional two weeks, and so on. By Spring, your lashes will be thick and lustrous; you won’t even need mascara. I begin my pledge…NOW.

Yours,

Tom

]]> By: Angie http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-12978 Angie Wed, 08 Dec 2010 06:31:57 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-12978 Hello Tom! I'm sorry for replying so long after you posted! It's really a great idea, since I'm growing my eyelashes back like they were this summer in Israel (my mantra, I swear, it's going to work!) ;). I wish I could get rid of this freaking ocd! When they just start growing and not at full length, I start getting afraid they'll grow out thin or straight- not how they were this summer... In Israel... Ok, I sound like a freak saying it so many times! :) I just want them back so badly!! This fear is just killing me, and I know that it's not true- they're growing back just like they were 6 months ago, but before they get to long, I start pulling. I'm trying my best, but even when I go to sleep or anytime of the day I'm not occupied, these fears creep up on my, and I visualize them growing badly, and I have the urge to pull. It's like my mind is trying to get me to pull though they're growing out perfectly like they were 6 months ago. It's not just impatience, I'm trying so hard, it's just this damn fear! Sigh, I hope you have some suggestions! How are you doing?! Is your method working?! I hope so!!!! I hope that I can get past this fear- I keep saying in my mind that they're growing back like 6 months ago and I know it's true, I can do it! :) I pray you're doing amazing!!!! Lots of love and luck, -Angie Hello Tom!
I’m sorry for replying so long after you posted! It’s really a great idea, since I’m growing my eyelashes back like they were this summer in Israel (my mantra, I swear, it’s going to work!) ;) . I wish I could get rid of this freaking ocd! When they just start growing and not at full length, I start getting afraid they’ll grow out thin or straight- not how they were this summer… In Israel… Ok, I sound like a freak saying it so many times! :) I just want them back so badly!! This fear is just killing me, and I know that it’s not true- they’re growing back just like they were 6 months ago, but before they get to long, I start pulling. I’m trying my best, but even when I go to sleep or anytime of the day I’m not occupied, these fears creep up on my, and I visualize them growing badly, and I have the urge to pull. It’s like my mind is trying to get me to pull though they’re growing out perfectly like they were 6 months ago. It’s not just impatience, I’m trying so hard, it’s just this damn fear!

Sigh, I hope you have some suggestions!
How are you doing?! Is your method working?! I hope so!!!! I hope that I can get past this fear- I keep saying in my mind that they’re growing back like 6 months ago and I know it’s true, I can do it! :) I pray you’re doing amazing!!!!
Lots of love and luck,
-Angie

]]> By: Angie http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-12977 Angie Wed, 08 Dec 2010 06:21:17 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-12977 Hello again sweet hearts! I NEED YOU HELP!!!! If you look up above at some of my posts, you'll see that I posed a couple months ago around June/July/August! I have to tell you all something! I finally stopped just after writing here! And let me tell you, that it was the most beautiful, amazing feeling in the entire universe! I felt so good, so confident, and my lashes were SO long and dark and curled up and fanned out and gorgeous! I went to Israel around July, and I love it there so much- just being able to put on my Dr. Hauschka mascara (I wanted something natural only for the eyes) felt sexy and amazing and so wonderful, only the best feeling ever! I came back here, and I didn't have the urge to pull, I didn't want to, my lashes were gorgeous! But then.... NOT AGAIN, DAMN IT! I didn't pull them out, and I speak to you with the truth from my heart! I was overusing mascara, and it was too much for my lashes, natural mascara or not, I didn't wash it off every night! As a result, I was (bad idea, bad idea) pulling off the mascara, and a clump of my gorgeous lashes came out! I was devastated! The sight of seeing them not perfectly thick as before right in the middle of my right eye, I couldn't help but pull out some out to try and fiz that gap- mhmm, like that helped! A month later, all lashes gone.... I couldn't believe it. Looking at my naked eye again made me look like some freaking alien! I felt depressed! It's been just a few months as you know, and I'm trying to grow them back now, praying that they'll look just as they did this summer in Israel! Here's my problem- I get these fears that they won't come out looking just like they did this summer in Israel, and I start pulling them out because of that fear. It's like an ocd! I'm scared of having them come out looking straight (when I know that it's not the case and that they're growing back just like they did a few months ago in the summer!). It scares me that I can't shake this stupid fear! I know that before going to Israel in the summer, I came here and got your help! I made, and I didn't start again, but only because of an accident- I never felt the urge to pull! I hope that someone would give me the encouragement to shake this stupid fear, to help me know they'll grow back just like they were this summer! This stupid ocd has to go away, please help me! I'm trying my hardest, I just need only a push! I hope that I can give you all support as much as you all gave it to me! I know that together, we can all get through our separate, yet painfully similar problems! I love you all so much! Best of luck to all, -Angie P.S. WOW, that was long, huh?! Eek! ;) Hello again sweet hearts! I NEED YOU HELP!!!!
If you look up above at some of my posts, you’ll see that I posed a couple months ago around June/July/August! I have to tell you all something!
I finally stopped just after writing here! And let me tell you, that it was the most beautiful, amazing feeling in the entire universe! I felt so good, so confident, and my lashes were SO long and dark and curled up and fanned out and gorgeous! I went to Israel around July, and I love it there so much- just being able to put on my Dr. Hauschka mascara (I wanted something natural only for the eyes) felt sexy and amazing and so wonderful, only the best feeling ever!
I came back here, and I didn’t have the urge to pull, I didn’t want to, my lashes were gorgeous! But then…. NOT AGAIN, DAMN IT!
I didn’t pull them out, and I speak to you with the truth from my heart! I was overusing mascara, and it was too much for my lashes, natural mascara or not, I didn’t wash it off every night! As a result, I was (bad idea, bad idea) pulling off the mascara, and a clump of my gorgeous lashes came out! I was devastated! The sight of seeing them not perfectly thick as before right in the middle of my right eye, I couldn’t help but pull out some out to try and fiz that gap- mhmm, like that helped!
A month later, all lashes gone…. I couldn’t believe it. Looking at my naked eye again made me look like some freaking alien! I felt depressed! It’s been just a few months as you know, and I’m trying to grow them back now, praying that they’ll look just as they did this summer in Israel!

Here’s my problem- I get these fears that they won’t come out looking just like they did this summer in Israel, and I start pulling them out because of that fear. It’s like an ocd! I’m scared of having them come out looking straight (when I know that it’s not the case and that they’re growing back just like they did a few months ago in the summer!). It scares me that I can’t shake this stupid fear! I know that before going to Israel in the summer, I came here and got your help! I made, and I didn’t start again, but only because of an accident- I never felt the urge to pull! I hope that someone would give me the encouragement to shake this stupid fear, to help me know they’ll grow back just like they were this summer! This stupid ocd has to go away, please help me! I’m trying my hardest, I just need only a push! I hope that I can give you all support as much as you all gave it to me! I know that together, we can all get through our separate, yet painfully similar problems!
I love you all so much! Best of luck to all,
-Angie

P.S. WOW, that was long, huh?! Eek! ;)

]]> By: nisha gadia http://ontrich.com/do-you-ever-think-it-could-be-easy-to-stop-pulling-out-hair.html/comment-page-1#comment-12829 nisha gadia Sun, 05 Dec 2010 22:02:08 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=615#comment-12829 Hi my name is nisha gadia i need some help with trich i can find a way to stop i have tried everything i have been pulling since i was 12yrs old now im 30 ! i am so depressed ! do u know how to handle urges? cause i stoped for 4 months and the urges came back so ive pulled all my hair out again ! cbt therepy dosesnt work ! do u know what else i can do please reply to me and you can email me on my above email add nis8882003@yahoo.co.ok thank you nisha gadia Hi my name is nisha gadia i need some help with trich i can find a way to stop i have tried everything i have been pulling since i was 12yrs old now im 30 ! i am so depressed ! do u know how to handle urges? cause i stoped for 4 months and the urges came back so ive pulled all my hair out again ! cbt therepy dosesnt work ! do u know what else i can do please reply to me and you can email me on my above email add nis8882003@yahoo.co.ok

thank you

nisha gadia

]]>