Comments on: Does Childhood Trauma Cause Trichotillomania? http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html Personal stories from those with experience of trichotillomania - pulling out hair. Thu, 17 May 2012 01:45:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Amanda http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-26528 Amanda Tue, 08 May 2012 13:00:45 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-26528 My stepdaughter is 5, and she has completely pulled out her eyebrows, and now her eyelashes. It is VERY noticeable being that she has dark brown hair. Her mother has not been around for about a year, and when she was, she wasnt a good mother at all. I dont think she knows how to be one. I'm pretty sure this is why she is pulling her hair out, BUT i dont know how to stop it. We are looking in to a counselor but I'd also like to know what to do at home. We keep telling her, "why do you do that? we love your eyebrows! if you stop pulling them, they can grow back! Just remember when you put your hand up, you gotta put it back down and say oops, i forgot!"....i mean, i dont know what else. Its not like we can say you look weird honey, but i dont know what to do! My stepdaughter is 5, and she has completely pulled out her eyebrows, and now her eyelashes. It is VERY noticeable being that she has dark brown hair.
Her mother has not been around for about a year, and when she was, she wasnt a good mother at all. I dont think she knows how to be one.
I’m pretty sure this is why she is pulling her hair out, BUT i dont know how to stop it.
We are looking in to a counselor but I’d also like to know what to do at home.
We keep telling her, “why do you do that? we love your eyebrows! if you stop pulling them, they can grow back! Just remember when you put your hand up, you gotta put it back down and say oops, i forgot!”….i mean, i dont know what else. Its not like we can say you look weird honey, but i dont know what to do!

]]> By: Alexie http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-26493 Alexie Fri, 04 May 2012 09:10:12 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-26493 Definitely! There's a tendency that the young ones will develop this kind of disorder is at high risk. This gives an important notice to the public and specially concerns the parents to brace their children as possible as they can to prevent and protect the young minds. Definitely! There’s a tendency that the young ones will develop this kind of disorder is at high risk. This gives an important notice to the public and specially concerns the parents to brace their children as possible as they can to prevent and protect the young minds.
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]]> By: Sable http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-26482 Sable Thu, 03 May 2012 12:59:35 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-26482 My grandmother used to drowned my pet cats as punishment. She would also hit my shins with a sorting stick and the bony parts of my forearms, threaten suicide if I ever told her no. She once crushed a baby sparrow I wished to keep as a pet because it had fallen out of its nest and was too young to live on its own. I was around 7. She squeezed it in her hands and I heard its bones crack and it made chirping noises before it died. I grew up on a farm. Raised by my grandparents, isolated from other children. Not allowed to go to other houses. My grandfather played no part in this. But he did choose to look the other way. I was never spanked. Just hit on my bony parts with hard objects. We raised Quarter Horses for income, and I had my own mare, which she would lock away and refuse to not let me feed for days at at a time. I started drinking at an early age. Ran away often. But I would always come back in fear of losing my beloved Sable. I having been pulling and eating since. Life is a horrible thing. And there is little beauty left in it. 30 years old, childless...sad, hopeless. Dead inside. I enjoyed watching her die slowly in the hospital. My moment of happiness. She was, and is, Hell itself. My grandmother used to drowned my pet cats as punishment. She would also hit my shins with a sorting stick and the bony parts of my forearms, threaten suicide if I ever told her no. She once crushed a baby sparrow I wished to keep as a pet because it had fallen out of its nest and was too young to live on its own. I was around 7. She squeezed it in her hands and I heard its bones crack and it made chirping noises before it died. I grew up on a farm. Raised by my grandparents, isolated from other children. Not allowed to go to other houses. My grandfather played no part in this. But he did choose to look the other way. I was never spanked. Just hit on my bony parts with hard objects. We raised Quarter Horses for income, and I had my own mare, which she would lock away and refuse to not let me feed for days at at a time. I started drinking at an early age. Ran away often. But I would always come back in fear of losing my beloved Sable. I having been pulling and eating since. Life is a horrible thing. And there is little beauty left in it. 30 years old, childless…sad, hopeless. Dead inside. I enjoyed watching her die slowly in the hospital. My moment of happiness. She was, and is, Hell itself.

]]> By: layla http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-26280 layla Sun, 15 Apr 2012 23:33:50 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-26280 i started pulling out my hair since i was 10, and i think it was due to the abandonment of my mom and the physical and verbal abuse of my stepfather. i think i did it to calm myself, like how some people bite their nails or chew of their sleeves you know? i started pulling out my hair since i was 10, and i think it was due to the abandonment of my mom and the physical and verbal abuse of my stepfather. i think i did it to calm myself, like how some people bite their nails or chew of their sleeves you know?

]]> By: Deana http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-26158 Deana Thu, 05 Apr 2012 06:18:57 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-26158 Childhood trauma had may disadvantage especially when they getting older because it never erases in their minds what is happening during the abuse. Parents should watch out for their kids welfare in order to avoid this kind of psychological problems that affect the minds of an individual. Childhood trauma had may disadvantage especially when they getting older because it never erases in their minds what is happening during the abuse. Parents should watch out for their kids welfare in order to avoid this kind of psychological problems that affect the minds of an individual.
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]]> By: just a thought http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-25559 just a thought Sun, 19 Feb 2012 01:40:58 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-25559 I almost exclusively pull out my pubic hair but started with my eyelashes before I had any. I was sexually abused since I can remember. When my father stopped abusing me I started pulling, I was 11. I think I do it because of what happened to me. I almost exclusively pull out my pubic hair but started with my eyelashes before I had any. I was sexually abused since I can remember. When my father stopped abusing me I started pulling, I was 11. I think I do it because of what happened to me.

]]> By: Cheska http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-25268 Cheska Sat, 28 Jan 2012 08:20:13 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-25268 I just recently had read an article about this mental disorder that some individuals are totally aware of and some are not. If you will based it on the research that I had read there is a high risk or potential that a child may develop trichotillomania due to the anxiety which they could not express well just because they were too young to think of better ways to express their thoughts and maybe afraid as well that they might get rejected by their families. A person who does have it needs a psychiatrist and as well as an extended understanding to be able to make them feel that they had our support and at least lessen what they feel. This will help them unload what they feel and with proper treatments they can possibly survive with this rare mental condition. I just recently had read an article about this mental disorder that some individuals are totally aware of and some are not. If you will based it on the research that I had read there is a high risk or potential that a child may develop trichotillomania due to the anxiety which they could not express well just because they were too young to think of better ways to express their thoughts and maybe afraid as well that they might get rejected by their families. A person who does have it needs a psychiatrist and as well as an extended understanding to be able to make them feel that they had our support and at least lessen what they feel. This will help them unload what they feel and with proper treatments they can possibly survive with this rare mental condition.
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]]> By: Eloise http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-24740 Eloise Wed, 04 Jan 2012 20:12:30 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-24740 My 9 yo stepdaughter has been pulling her hair for the last month (that we know of). We were married three months ago. Per my husband, she has always been a "picker"-- pulling eyelashes and at scabs-- but has now moved onto hair. So I don't think this new on-set is directly caused by our new marriage and new living situation (move to a new house, 2 new step siblings for a total of 4 kids in the house), but I do think the stress of this situation could be aggravating her impulse to do this. I don't think there is any abuse in her history, but she did have the trauma of her parents divorcing at a young age, her mother re-marrying and having another child and now our new wedding. I'm not so much concerned as to what caused it as to how best to help her deal with this. We've been told not to call her out on it when we see her doing it and that this is her issue to deal with (they've given her some techniques to use). That is SO HARD to watch and not do anything! We love her dearly and want to help her. Any advice from those having gone through this situation as to how you would have wanted parents, stepparents, etc. to respond to your situation??? We love her so much and are very worried about her. Thanks in advance for any advice you can offer. My 9 yo stepdaughter has been pulling her hair for the last month (that we know of). We were married three months ago. Per my husband, she has always been a “picker”– pulling eyelashes and at scabs– but has now moved onto hair. So I don’t think this new on-set is directly caused by our new marriage and new living situation (move to a new house, 2 new step siblings for a total of 4 kids in the house), but I do think the stress of this situation could be aggravating her impulse to do this. I don’t think there is any abuse in her history, but she did have the trauma of her parents divorcing at a young age, her mother re-marrying and having another child and now our new wedding. I’m not so much concerned as to what caused it as to how best to help her deal with this. We’ve been told not to call her out on it when we see her doing it and that this is her issue to deal with (they’ve given her some techniques to use). That is SO HARD to watch and not do anything! We love her dearly and want to help her. Any advice from those having gone through this situation as to how you would have wanted parents, stepparents, etc. to respond to your situation???

We love her so much and are very worried about her. Thanks in advance for any advice you can offer.

]]> By: cheyenne http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-23306 cheyenne Wed, 02 Nov 2011 02:32:03 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-23306 when i was 4 i was molested....7 brutally raped by my little brothers father....10 i was molested by my moms new fiance... my mother is a skitsofrantic and abusive.....I've been homeless still homeless and my life is nothing but struggles...and i pull my eyelashes i never realized it was a disorder till i had the erg to look it up....so i think it dose have relation to sexual abuse but i don't think that the only leading cause i believe there maybe more to like stress and the fact that it is a compulsion....I've tried for years to stop but its practically impossible...I'm still questioning what i should do to stop this irresistible unknowing erg.... when i was 4 i was molested….7 brutally raped by my little brothers father….10 i was molested by my moms new fiance… my mother is a skitsofrantic and abusive…..I’ve been homeless still homeless and my life is nothing but struggles…and i pull my eyelashes i never realized it was a disorder till i had the erg to look it up….so i think it dose have relation to sexual abuse but i don’t think that the only leading cause i believe there maybe more to like stress and the fact that it is a compulsion….I’ve tried for years to stop but its practically impossible…I’m still questioning what i should do to stop this irresistible unknowing erg….

]]> By: Eleanor http://ontrich.com/does-childhood-trauma-cause-trichotillomania.html/comment-page-1#comment-21221 Eleanor Wed, 22 Jun 2011 12:58:02 +0000 http://ontrich.com/?p=173#comment-21221 Started pulling at the age of 12... My father was an alcoholic and my mother required that her emotional needs be met by me - to support her, be there for her and finally to talk on her behalf to my father (later a great skill in my "chosen" vocation, i.e. law). Ever since I can remember, I was always swearing at my father, being very critical of his drinking problem and at the age of 5 I stopped talking to him altogether. From the ages of 5 to 12 the whole family lived under the same roof, but I had no (or minimal) contact with my father - I called him "it" and used the fact that he could not understand my mother''s 'mother tongue' to exclude him from all commmunications in which he was present. For the first 12 years of my life, my father was -in my mind- an absolute monster; capable of everything and anything. As a reuslt, right before turning 12 (ie before my entry to adolesence) I started pulling. It was only 4 years ago, when I started psychoanalytic psychotherapy to try and resolve my overall emotional conflicts, that I gradually started making positive steps towards understanding and resolving my hair pulling issue. Started pulling at the age of 12… My father was an alcoholic and my mother required that her emotional needs be met by me – to support her, be there for her and finally to talk on her behalf to my father (later a great skill in my “chosen” vocation, i.e. law). Ever since I can remember, I was always swearing at my father, being very critical of his drinking problem and at the age of 5 I stopped talking to him altogether. From the ages of 5 to 12 the whole family lived under the same roof, but I had no (or minimal) contact with my father – I called him “it” and used the fact that he could not understand my mother”s ‘mother tongue’ to exclude him from all commmunications in which he was present. For the first 12 years of my life, my father was -in my mind- an absolute monster; capable of everything and anything. As a reuslt, right before turning 12 (ie before my entry to adolesence) I started pulling. It was only 4 years ago, when I started psychoanalytic psychotherapy to try and resolve my overall emotional conflicts, that I gradually started making positive steps towards understanding and resolving my hair pulling issue.

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